I bet most people have been in a situation like this: you warn a friend or relative not to do something, because it will have bad consequences. That person ignores you and does it anyway. And then you do something to protect that person from those bad consequences – maybe even sacrificing yourself so it is you who suffers them.
And you probably believe that makes you a good, caring friend.
Here’s some news: by doing that, you are only harming that person in the long run. And believe me, I’ve committed that error myself. But I try not to, any more.




