Way of the Mind

(this is expanded from a comment I wrote in the entry below this one)

A lot of people believe that love is causeless. That it is unexplainable, that it has no rhyme or reason, that a person simply loves another and that’s it, that it’s impossible to say “I love you because…” or “I love you for your…”.

Many go even further and say that, even if it was possible to say that, it would be undesirable, because it would ruin the “purity” of love, that love should be causeless. That loving someone for something, that loving something in another, does, in some way, diminish the feelings, diminish the meaning of “love”.

Call me weird, but I believe feelings do have causes. You may not think about it consciously, you may not even be aware of those causes, but you fall in love with something (or things) in the other person. Their sense of humor, their intelligence, the way they make you feel alive, the special smile they have just for you, their passion for life, etc.. “Love without cause” is for teenagers , or for when both people are so “low” that they can’t find anything to love in the other… and yet they are OK with it, because they know there’s nothing to love in themselves.