It’s true that we can not control desire; it’s true that you can somehow feel what’s called “love at first sight” although I wouldn’t call it love… I’d rather call it “first impression” looks more like it…

Love is not desire — love is a feeling that can be expressed and can include the experience of fulfillment. (Desire is lack of fulfillment.) In love, the thoughts, feelings, actions and opinions of the beloved matter. There is a focus of interest, attention & caring on another person and their words & actions impact our emotions. Loving is a deeply involving process which can entail profound emotional interactions with the beloved.
Someone who only feels comfortable in giving and not in taking is lacking in trust or other qualities necessary for closeness & intimacy.
Those who most easily turn love into hate are those most at the mercy of their own ego.
“obsessive lover” may suffer something like stage-fright in the company of the beloved — too much is at risk. Love can undermine rationality

About the above phrase: what I meant was that everybody should express feelings without fear of being rejected… “You don’t ask, you don’t get”… this doesn’t mean you should humiliate yourself, there’s a limit. The problem is that most people don’t respect, don’t love themselves… and I must agree 100%: always dream of the impossible… “The frog will turn into a prince” but sometimes is “The prince who turned into a frog”.