Comments on: On relationships and mutual happiness http://www.wayofthemind.org/2005/07/29/on-relationships-and-mutual-happiness/ Tue, 06 Jan 2009 23:05:29 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: amairany http://www.wayofthemind.org/2005/07/29/on-relationships-and-mutual-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-154 amairany Thu, 29 Sep 2005 06:12:11 +0000 http://www.dehumanizer.com/wayofthemind/?p=19#comment-154 Your post made me see a lot of mistakes I've done in my past hurting. Before I thought that if you love a person, you'll do anything to make the relationship work even if you're having some troubles already. I was afraid of losing the person that I loved so much. In the long run, I agreed to end the relationship since we we're not as happy as we used to be. We know we love each other, but since the relationship is putting a strain on us, I finally conceded that it was better if the relationship ended. Your post made me see a lot of mistakes I’ve done in my past hurting. Before I thought that if you love a person, you’ll do anything to make the relationship work even if you’re having some troubles already. I was afraid of losing the person that I loved so much. In the long run, I agreed to end the relationship since we we’re not as happy as we used to be. We know we love each other, but since the relationship is putting a strain on us, I finally conceded that it was better if the relationship ended.

]]> By: Vanessa http://www.wayofthemind.org/2005/07/29/on-relationships-and-mutual-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-40 Vanessa Mon, 01 Aug 2005 17:44:59 +0000 http://www.dehumanizer.com/wayofthemind/?p=19#comment-40 The mutual respect that you speak, the *agreement* is more than a trade bill; it is a commitment of freedom-loving...it will always be the same problem...how to love and how to be loved The mutual respect that you speak, the *agreement* is more than a trade bill; it is a commitment of freedom-loving…it will always be the same problem…how to love and how to be loved

]]> By: velvetsatine http://www.wayofthemind.org/2005/07/29/on-relationships-and-mutual-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-36 velvetsatine Sat, 30 Jul 2005 13:16:34 +0000 http://www.dehumanizer.com/wayofthemind/?p=19#comment-36 A bit more on the previous. I have also realised we see the end of a relationship as a personal and social failure and no one wants to fail. That's why we want at all costs to maintain that relationship even though it doesn't make us 100% happy all of the time. On the other hand I guess we fear being alone more than we would like to admit. And many times we end up accepting a relationship which is not what we really wish for ourselves. When a relationship ends it seems as if the entire world had collapsed but it hasn't really. We always must pursue what we think is best for us and the other part and above all we should be truthful and respectful. The success for a relationship is mutual respect, confidence and communication. If you don't have that then you won't have a satisfactory relationship. Unfortunately our troubled society / world has turned most of us into terribly emotional unbalanced human beings and people end up, most of their times, in unfullfilling relationships that make them even more unbalanced. A bit more on the previous.

I have also realised we see the end of a relationship as a personal and social failure and no one wants to fail. That’s why we want at all costs to maintain that relationship even though it doesn’t make us 100% happy all of the time.

On the other hand I guess we fear being alone more than we would like to admit. And many times we end up accepting a relationship which is not what we really wish for ourselves.

When a relationship ends it seems as if the entire world had collapsed but it hasn’t really. We always must pursue what we think is best for us and the other part and above all we should be truthful and respectful.

The success for a relationship is mutual respect, confidence and communication. If you don’t have that then you won’t have a satisfactory relationship.

Unfortunately our troubled society / world has turned most of us into terribly emotional unbalanced human beings and people end up, most of their times, in unfullfilling relationships that make them even more unbalanced.

]]> By: velvetsatine http://www.wayofthemind.org/2005/07/29/on-relationships-and-mutual-happiness/comment-page-1/#comment-35 velvetsatine Fri, 29 Jul 2005 22:17:53 +0000 http://www.dehumanizer.com/wayofthemind/?p=19#comment-35 Lovely! A topic I just adore! :) Now then... there's plenty to comment on this one though I might confess I must agree (surprise surprise!) with you on a lot you've wrote. From my personal experience I still think people don't give enough time for relationships to develop, then there's also another problem which is the will or lack of it to establish a commitment with someone. Tolerance is a quality, but if you get too tolerant you're not being tolerant but <b>permissive</b> which will ruin your emotional stability and self-esteem. I do think we put up with more than we should when a relationship tends to go wrong because deep down we hope things will change and get better. We should be wiser really, because things don't change just because we wish them too or hope them to change for the better, but at the moment we just can't see things clearly. Being rejected by someone we fancy is probably one of the hardest and humiliating things one has to go through in life but sometimes we end up realizing that that rejection has in fact been a bliss. It's just not enough liking someone; there's just so much needed for a relationship to work out. Lovely! A topic I just adore! :)

Now then… there’s plenty to comment on this one though I might confess I must agree (surprise surprise!) with you on a lot you’ve wrote.

From my personal experience I still think people don’t give enough time for relationships to develop, then there’s also another problem which is the will or lack of it to establish a commitment with someone.

Tolerance is a quality, but if you get too tolerant you’re not being tolerant but permissive which will ruin your emotional stability and self-esteem.

I do think we put up with more than we should when a relationship tends to go wrong because deep down we hope things will change and get better. We should be wiser really, because things don’t change just because we wish them too or hope them to change for the better, but at the moment we just can’t see things clearly.

Being rejected by someone we fancy is probably one of the hardest and humiliating things one has to go through in life but sometimes we end up realizing that that rejection has in fact been a bliss. It’s just not enough liking someone; there’s just so much needed for a relationship to work out.

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